The Fear of Being Yourself: Become Who You're Afraid To Be!

 

Most of us are scared to be our true selves. We hide parts of who we are because we think they might not be accepted by others. This fear makes us uncomfortable, so we try to escape it. We split ourselves into two parts: the conscious and the unconscious.

The Battle Between Our Two Selves

In the conscious mind, people build an ideal version of themselves—a version made up of only the good qualities they believe they have. This is the side they show to the world. However, deep inside their unconscious mind, they hide and suppress the parts they think are bad or weak.

In psychology, Carl Jung called this hidden part "The Shadow." It includes everything about ourselves that we try to deny or avoid—our insecurities, fears, and flaws. But ignoring the shadow doesn’t make it disappear; in fact, it grows stronger.

If we don’t integrate our shadow, we remain incomplete. We live in denial and fear instead of becoming the person we are truly meant to be. This leads to regret because we never explore our full potential.

The Shadow is the part of us that we don’t want to see. It includes our weaknesses, fears, and flaws. Unless we accept and integrate this Shadow into our personality, we can never reach our full potential. We will always feel incomplete and live a life full of regrets.

A Simple Example: The Aspiring Singer

Imagine you love singing and believe you have a great voice. You often sing at home and your family and friends praise you. One day, you hear about a local singing competition. You feel excited but also scared. What if you don’t perform well? What if people don’t like your singing? You have two choices:

1. Run from Your Shadow: You decide not to join the competition. You keep singing at home, believing you are a great singer. But you miss the chance to improve and prove yourself.

2. Embrace Your Shadow: You decide to join the competition. You perform and realize that while you have a good voice, there are areas you need to work on, like controlling your pitch or stage presence. This realization hurts at first, but it helps you understand your strengths and weaknesses. You take singing lessons, practice more, and improve over time.

This example applies to every aspect of life. Many people prefer to live in potential—they tell themselves, "I could be great if I tried," but they never actually try. Why? Because trying means facing failure, limitations, and reality.

The Comfort of Potential

We often prefer to live in the world of "what could be." We tell ourselves we could be great if we wanted to, but we don’t take action. This is because when we take action, we face reality. We are measured and ranked. This reality can be less pleasant than our fantasies, but it is real. And reality can be improved.

Self-Acceptance is the First Step to Growth

The journey to self-improvement starts with self-acceptance. We must embrace our flaws, weaknesses, and fears instead of running away from them. This means integrating our shadow into our personality.

If we deny our shadow, we stay incomplete, always pretending to be someone we are not. But if we accept it, we give ourselves a chance to become the best version of ourselves.

Choice is Yours

It’s up to you to decide. Will you face your shadow and grow, or will you live in fear and regret? Would you rather fail in reality or succeed in your imagination? The choice is yours. Embrace your true self, accept your Shadow, and live a full, whole life.

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